I have my share of sexual fantasy…ok, waaaaay more than my share, but whose counting. The wonderful and amazing thing about people and sex is that no matter how weird, gross, or outlandish your fantasy is, someone has already thought of it, and someone has probably come up with something even more extreme than you.
My first real brush with that was as a teen, reading erotic fiction, and then reading a book that was a compilation of actual women’s fantasies…some of which shocked even my perverted teenage brain! Where are those women, and why can’t I meet them? Lol
Thanks of course to the internet we have greater access than ever before to even more kink, and sometimes even access to people to indulge those kinks with…ah the interwebs. They said they’d change the world, I just don’t think they meant the world of kinky sex.
The male sexual mind is a weird and wild place, and it can think
of all sorts of depravity…mine is no exception. For whatever reason some of us men are interested in, or get off on submission, be dominated and humiliation. I’m not a submissive person in my everyday life. I’m not a dominant person either. I’m in charge of a lot of things, but ultimately my preferred stance is that I’m in charge of me, and you’re in charge of you. I don’t need to be the boss of anything or anyone.
When it comes to my sex life, I like power play, although I’ve fantasized about more than I’ve actually gotten to do it. I’d love to explore it more with the women in my life, but A)They don’t seem particularly into it and B) My insecurity issues lead me to be reluctant about voluntarily demeaning myself in the eyes of my female romantic partner. With men however I really enjoy the submissive role. I enjoy being the “bitch” and get off on a man taking control and using me for his pleasure. I have no relationship with these men, and most of them I’ll never see again, so I’ve got nothing to loose and plenty to enjoy.
This morning I was doing some web browsing for fun, and I decided to look up male chastity, and then that led me to look up cuckolding. The male chastity thing I’m curious about. I’m curious about it from the power exchange side of things and most especially from a sensual aspect. I like senin suality, teasing and the temporary denial of pleasure. I’d be interested in wearing one for a couple of days for the constant reminder of sex and the temptation of the cookie in the jar that you can’t have. But I want it to be a game, and not a long term one either.
In a little googling however it seems like the real focus for many men/couples is far more elaborate and goes waaaaay beyond where I would imagine or want to take it. For many guys it would seem that they want “female led relationships” and they want long term, if not permanent orgasm denial. For these couples it isn’t play, it’s a lifestyle. I find that fascinating and yet I can’t relate to it. These men seem to really want to surrender themselves entirely to someone else, not just in a sexual way, and seem to really have low regard for their own sexuality beyond the desires of their partners. Along with that many seem to want to be belittled and emasculated, on a full time basis, which is kind of fascinating. I love fantasy, but I really want it to stop at the end of the sexual realm. Through my reading it seems like there are many men who want it to encompass their lives, and really take over who they are, denying who they are, and giving themselves entirely (and not in a good way) to someone else.
Even more strange and fascinating to me are the cuckolders. I’ve written about it here before, but to me I just can’t wrap my head around it. Open relationships are one thing. I’d like to have one, but I can get behind the idea of each partner being entirely free to sleep with other people, so long as they come back home to the relationship and are honest about it. That I get. I also get doing threesomes where you bring an extra in, and it’s a little lop sided, but still a group sport. The cuck think to me is a whole other beast. The notion of purposely posing yourself as a men as worthless and unsatisfying while actively seeking out men for your wife to sleep with, with or without you makes my mind itch. It is dominance to an extreme that I just find hard to grasp. Again, I get the fantasy play, and I can sort of get it if you and your partner are having a scenario/living out a fantasy, but this seems to go beyond that into a lifestyle where the husband becomes a servant to the woman…a servant who actively looks for opportunities for his wife to sleep with other “better” men, while the most he gets is either cleaning cum out of his wife’s vagina or sucking the cock of the man who is about to fuck his wife.
To each there own, and I certainly don’t cast judgement on these folks or think that they are wrong. I just find it fascinating and very hard to relate to. And it serves to remind me just how fascinating we all are.